Max is the one in the middle :) He was born on the 23rd of August 2009 in the 41 week, after a normal pregnancy. At birth they said his left ear was obstructed, but this was checked when he was 6 months old and there was no problem anymore.
When he turned two, I went to the doctor the first time because he didn't say a word. The doctor said he was ok, only clever and stubborn. I insisted a few months later, wanting to check his ears - and yes, one of his ears was obstructed (again?). So he was operated in November 2012 (don't know the name of the operation, but something quiet common, where they put two straws in his ear?) - which made us wait a few more months, to see how he would develop. Only by then I started to realize that Max had always been slow(er). When he was 8 months old, he couldn't turn, he would only lay on his back, he started to walk with 22 months - things like that - difficulty with his fingers, not very skilled going up and down stairs, I guess I carried him until his brother was born. Tobias is 14 months younger than Max and although we don't have the diagnosis yet, I am pretty sure he has the same as Max, maybe a little bit milder. We are getting his diagnose in January.
So… there always was a lot of waiting in between, people saying that it was normal, people telling me I was overreacting, because Max is really social and interactive, an happy and very cute child, tender and emotive. So for outsiders they could not see how it is to be with him all day. He has an intellectual and cognitive development delay, so he doesn't really know what for ex, wet or dirty is, he still uses diapers, he doesn't talk, he can not dress by himself, and yes, he is very stubborn and clever, he only does, what he wants to do, and if contradicted he can get aggressive and angry, frustrated even. He is four now, we live in Portugal, unfortunately they don't have so many options here, but now that we know what is going on, we are more focused and more calm about the situation… he is having early intervention support now, two times a week for one hour each, he can do 1:1, he can do some signs, mostly for animals, which he loves...
Update - 4.2.2014: last week we got max little brother diagnose and learned that he has exactly the same as max. This means that or me or my boyfriend have somehow passed this on.